My wife and I are enjoying a permanent honeymoon. Each of us puts the other first. We take care of each other, and we divide the chores and duties according to which of us is best suited to the specific job.
It is surprising that millions of couples, committed to their relationships, make their relationships unhappy and uncomfortable. When I think of those relationships, I feel sympathy for them, and wonder why they were drawn to each other originally.
To begin with, men should neither desire nor seek control. Accept that old saying (I don’t know its source), “If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, it’s yours. If it does not return, it never was yours”. Keep in mind that the sexiest part of a woman is her brain. Imagine the different emotions a man might experience if his lover is a prominent doctor, or a beloved author, or even an astronaut, compared to a lover that is an ignorant exotic dancer. A man should think of the level of imagery and imagination that the gifted woman might experience with him, rather than the shape of her ‘booty’. Don’t love the package… love the contents.
A good life does not just happen. A good life is built, if people are smart enough and sincere enough to work hard to be right, rather than to merely prevail. Men should take care to help their partners enjoy as much of each day as possible. Women should appreciate men’s efforts. Each must overlook small errors in the other, rather than make big issues of matters that could easily be overlooked.
Respect each other’s point of view and allow for the possibility that you’re not correct. Nobody knows everything and two together know more than two because respect is a symbiotic state, each brain nurturing the other. Give more and you might get more in return.